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WASTED ENERGY / SPIRITUAL ENERGY

imagesI was about six years into my ministerial journey and serving in my second church when I was called into the Senior Pastor’s office for a one on one meeting. In the several years that followed, working with this man and serving this ministry, we spent many times chatting, having lunch or passing some funny stories. Of his many gifts he always had an amazing story to tell, he was bigger than life and possessed that special knack that made everybody seem to like him. He was the kind of man who, when entering the room, absorbed all the attention and had a generous nature that was shared without any strings attached. Sounds perfect, right? Well, the longer I served with him I also experienced some of his more “challenging” sides. My pastor’s emotions could swing wildly on a dime. When he was good he was great; but when he was down it was difficult to manage around him. Of course, I didn’t do myself any favors because in my youth, and own arrogance, I was more than willing to lock horns with this bull; and looking back we both wasted a lot of energy. Now I don’t want to give you the impression there were major battles in public; because there were not. But behind closed doors we debated, and even argued, theology, politics and race vigorously. As time has advanced I’ve had the opportunity to revisit those years and come to the conclusion there were far more effective ministry moments than wasted ones; but, there were many lessons to come I would soon have to discover, on my own, that I wish I learned while serving him.

About six years later, when Jeannette and I planted Maranatha, I managed to discover how to waste energies I wasn’t even aware I had. In an attempt to not make the same mistakes I witnessed others make I was convinced I had a “better way” of doing ministry. Through inexperience and pride I managed to stumble through five years of Maranatha ministry with more than my fair share of parishioners willing to trip me, fight with me and drag me through the proverbial mud. All the while I asked, is this what ministry is all about? As I too learned how to sling mud with the best of them. Ugh….

Two years ago ministry forever changed for me, and our entire community, when I decided to stop building a church and start building a family. By concentrating on God, as the center of our teaching, worship and living collectively we all began to grow up! The wasted hours and energy on arguing, competing and trying to keep up with the “Jones’” salted away in favor of those who wanted to mature in Christ and learn how to reach their community with what really mattered…Jesus.

You see when the energy we waste, through fighting, competing, gossip, offense, etc… is energy we use to focus on Jesus, as the center of all things, we began to experience community invigorated with spiritual energy. The result: evangelism, conversion and the road to discipleship. This has proven to be, time and time again, the best expenditure of one’s energy, focus and attention. Though we still have to battle with self and the urge to waste our spiritual energy, on the divisive, if we collectively focus our energy on Jesus, the Cross and the Kingdom we cannot help but experience the radical move of His Holy Spirit in our midst.

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Many years after I left the ministry, I referenced earlier, I went back to that pastor and apologized for my behavior and role in wasting valuable energies. In a wonderful moment of reconciliation we reconnected with the things we most admired in each other. We shared in the celebration of our passion for Jesus and blessed one another as we continued to serve God in our respective callings. Of my many ministry experiences this one remains a powerful testimony of maturity and reunion that set us free to effectively minister to people without hurt, offense or frustration. I hope today’s post will serve to encourage you to stop wasting valuable energy and pursue the development of spiritual energy that will glorify the King and enrich the Kingdom.

Grace and Peace

JOSHUA

READY? SET? ACTION!

ahc_79194When Jeannette and I were first married I quickly discovered how different we really were. Through three years of dating, and an engagement period, I thought we were just alike in everything; but then after we said I do I realized we weren’t. That’s not to say our differences were bad or in some way we had deceived one another; it just reminds us that there are many ways, in our similarities, we can still be very different. It didn’t take long for me to discover our differences when after our first disagreement (fight) I wanted to patch things up and move on with a quick resolution. Jeannette, on the other hand, needed some time and breathing room to process our disagreement as well as our resolution. For over sixteen years we have managed to deal with conflict, disappointment, failures and hurts in much the same way as our first argument. And over this period of time I have come to appreciate the value of allowing the process of letting a situation breathe so as long as we are allowing the truth of God to act during that time.

As a pastor I have managed to tackle problems, within the church, from a variety of approaches. In some instances I have pressed, head strong, for a quick resolution with disastrous results; and at other times I have waited, too long, to allow people to process a conflict, which has also ended in unsuccessful outcomes. So after reading a variety of leadership books, conflict management articles and advise from my peers I still felt as if there was no “best” way to deal with any single situation better than what the Bible tells us.

St. James writes the early church and encourages them, “So let God work his will in you. Yell a loud no to the Devil and watch him scamper. Say a quiet yes to God and he’ll be there in no time. Quit dabbling in sin. Purify your inner life. Quit playing the field. Hit bottom, and cry your eyes out. The fun and games are over. Get serious, really serious. Get down on your knees before the Master; it’s the only way you’ll get on your feet.” (James 4:7-10 MSG)

“It is essential to give people a chance of acting on the truth of God.” (Chambers) After the pastor, husband, wife, boss or friend has had their say, in any situation or conflict, the responsibility must be left with the individual. You cannot, and are incapable, of acting for him or her and they must be deliberate in responding in a Christlike manner to any situation. Sadly, when we refuse to act, as Jesus would prompt us through His Word, we become paralyzed and end up exactly as we were before. Have you ever met people who live their life stuck? There are some who refuse to grow up, others who dodge responsibility and others still who assign blame, to others, for their misfortune. If you know this type of person or find yourself here today then return to what James tells us and CHANGE IT!  When one acts, he or she is never the same. And when we act upon God’s Word He begins to work His perfect will in our life immediately!

Too many people play games, with their own lives, by wasting precious time living in stalled action. Once you find yourself repeating a failed behavior, negative thinking or destructive speech immediately let go and allow God to get into your circumstance. The moments we will truly live are the moments when we act with our whole will submitted to His plans and purposes.
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FINAL THOUGHT: IT TAKES TIME, SO ALLOW FOR SOME BREATHING ROOM. While most of today’s post has advocated a quick Biblical response to life’s challenges I would be remiss if I didn’t bring some balance to the topic. Like Jeannette’s needing time to process our disagreement most people do require some breathing room. I personally believe all people would benefit from some time to “work it out.” However, this time needs to be well spent seeking Jesus and allowing His truth to walk us toward His resolution. “Never allow a truth of God that is brought home to your soul to pass without acting on it, not necessarily physically, but in will.” (Chambers)

In every part, or role in life, we play we will always be faced with the truth of God. When we confess we are wrong, but go back again; then we come up to it again, and go back; we are hopefully learning the valuable life lesson that tells us we have no business returning to an old failed way of living and thinking. God’s truth is not a negative reality that is meant to hurt or rob you rather His truths are the finest words of redemption in which Jesus transacts the business of drawing us back to Him. The final step we need to take is to go to Him; and everyone who responds to His invitation lives a life where the supernatural power of God invades and changes them instantly. If you truly want to be free from the burdensome power of the world, your weak flesh and your adversary, understand they are not paralyzed by your words or your actions of self! But the stumbling blocks and barriers will always be halted by your action, and will, that is linked to Jesus and His redemptive power!

Grace and Peace

JOSHUA